1. Don’t choose under pressure
2. Be careful about those introduced by third persons or parties
3. Don’t choose mainly based on physical looks but look beyond
4. Examine her/his character through interactions with you and others
5. Do things together (visit parents, friends, movies, soccer stadiums)
6. Watch for signs of sharing or selfishness: does s/he just takes and never offer anything; does s/he always says no to your preferences?
7. Examine her/his views on children, extended families, money and work and important lifes issues.
8. Does s/he have any career or intends to have one? Could you rely on him/her in sickness or during layoffs or should you be disabled
9. Examine her/his spending habits:does s/he respect money? Is s/he a spender?
10. How does s/he resolve conflicts? Hitting or throwing things? Yelling and screaming? Or is s/he patient or thoughtful?
11. Pay attention to how s/he treats people around you: your friends, families. Warm or not receptive?
12. Can you see yourself tolerating her/his a weakness or shortfalls? Don’t overlook or minimize them as they may never go away.
13. Can they put up with your weaknesses and shortfalls? Have you asked or watched her reactions when you wronged or fell short?
14. Is s/he forgiving or hungs onto everything and never let go?
15. Is s/he responsive to your needs?
16. Watch for controlling behaviours: always dictating what you wear, who you should or shouldn’t talk with? Going through your personal belongings without your approval?
17. Don’t marry because on condition:pregnancy, fear of disappointment, under sponsorship as sole reason.
Ensure you are compatible before deciding. Look beyond physical beauty, status, family name or credentials. Don’t be duped, be smart. Choose a lasting and enduring partner.
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Signed by: Akosua G
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