Is there ever such time that is right for a young man or woman to marry? Or there isn’t such time? Should one’s age count? Should we be checking our so-called biological clock as a time measure or we should rather consider our social, psychological and material readiness?
Many times, many people particularly Ghanaians marry with pressure from their families/peers or for fear of running out of time. Many fear they may have difficulty with having their children or in getting someone to marry if they waited much longer. Others are pressured into marriages to help support or supplement family incomes or improve family conditions.
But are such marriages good? Do they work? Who do such marriages serve? The couple? Or the extended family, children produced or one of the couples or no one? Do such marriages last? What’s the quality?
Are we making mistakes when we marry without ensuring we are ready for it? Should we really go into marriages when we do not have any incomes or means to care for ourselves and children? Who should be our priorities in our decisions to marry?
Do we miss out on finding our real love when we marry under pressure or before we’re ready? Is it dangerous to marry on the basis of other peripheral factors:economics, family conditions and fear of biological clock ticking?
Marriage is a serious matter and should be built on a solid foundation. People should ensure they are prepared for a marriage and have a way of supporting each other and their dependents. The couple must at least understand marriage, its ups and downs, how to handle conflicts, learn about different styles of communication to avoid destructive conflicts that escalate into violence.
People should also be psychologically prepared to manage the stressors in marriage and the reality and responsibilities that come with marriages and having children.
Marriages based on love, respect, kindness and forgiveness are beautiful, peaceful and lasting.
To me, the right time to marry is when you found your match: someone with whom you have mutual love and shared interests, and are ready economically, psychologically and mentally.
Akosgojack media
Signed by: Akosua G
